It’s 2016 we should all have our equal rights… right? Of course! But although we say we are one for equality for all, what are the double standards that we have faced throughout history, and how has it changed today?
Now backtrack a little to the early 1920’s in Long Island and New York City. Now this was a time where gender roles were challenged. Women were rebels. Cut their hair, showed a little more leg action and men were partied it up in mansions. It became acceptable for women to date around and become more open. But although women have gotten more freedom in their morals, it hasn’t stopped double standards from occurring in the time. In The Great Gatsby, they had many circumstances in which this has happened. Tom and Daisy had a strange relationship with each other. They were married to each other but happy wouldn’t describe their connection. Tom had a lover. She was a mistress that everyone knew about, including Daisy. Everyone knew about Tom’s relationship with his mistress, but no one seemed to oppose this relationship. People went about their business, and accepted the fact. Daisy fell in love with another as well, Gatsby. He won her over and they were lovers that had sparked passion in their relationship. But as soon as others found about about her and Gastby, it was unacceptable. It was seen as absurd and it was shameful for a man to lose her woman to another. As if she is supposed to remain loyal to Tom although she knew that he had another lover. The issue with this, is that men are allowed to cheat on women, but women cannot cheat on men. They have a name for a man’s “mistress”, but they don’t have a name close to that for men. Would it be “mister”?
It doesn’t stop there. In today’s society, we face double standards as high as abuse, but as minor as the dating. Abuse in modern society is a challenge all genders face. If a man hits a woman, the media and the public immediately intervene. The police are called, and the man is sent to prison and is labeled as an abuser for the rest of his life. Women on the other hand are turned the blind eye when a man gets hit. It is seen as “pathetic” because a women is hitting a man. People pretend like they never saw anything, stare, or laugh but never stop to help the man being abused. A social experiment was held that showed this exact issue in society.
It showed how people were willing to help the woman without even hesitating, but as a man is being abused both mentally and physically people stop to stare at the man as he gets choked,pushed,shoved around.
But it’s not just the main issues that are noticed, but also double standards that occur within dating. Yes dating. Age plays an important role in double standards. For a man to be dating a younger women, he is seen as a stud, a hunk. The women dating the man would be seen a “gold digger”. As if the only reason why a younger woman would date an older man is because of his money. And if a woman were to date a man younger than her, she is a cougar. The word itself doesn’t even sound pleasing. A wild animal. Words associated with pounce, hunt, corner, prowl. She is judged everyone including her friends.
There are may double standards that both genders face on a daily basis. It still continues to affect the modern society as women are judged by their age, and men are judged more harshly by their gender because of abuse. Over the years many of the issues even from the 1920’s haven’t changed, but we have become more aware of the issues concerning double standards. This is the first step on overcoming double standards.